By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor Day 7: Declare date night. Many of my couples tell me they experience loneliness in their marriage. Some say they live parallel lives with their partners. John and Julie Gottman’s research shows that the average amount of time couples spend in conversation is a mere thirty five minutes per week. And […]
By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor DAY 6: Reach out and Touch. These 10 habits are practiced by couples in happy, thriving relationships, where both partners are satisfied sexually:
By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor DAY 5: Ask for what you need. It’s not easy asking for what we need and couples often wish our partners could read our minds, or at least intuit our desires without exposing ourselves by actually spelling them out. Needs are not a sign of weakness! It is essential to communicate […]
By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor Day 4: Give a real compliment. A relationship is made up of one unit, consisting of two people, two minds, different desires and opinions. No wonder there will be conflict – that is to be expected! The trick to dealing with conflict and keeping love alive is the Gottman’s famous 5:1 […]
By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor DAY 3: Say thank you. “A thriving relationship requires a thriving culture of appreciation between partners”. It’s not hard to find the negative, if that’s what we’re looking for. Decide today to start looking for what’s right, not what’s wrong and when you notice it, comment on it! It’s not enough […]
Day 1: Make Contact. We know that people are busy. Making contact doesn’t need to take long!! The motto is: Small Things Often. According to John Gottman: “ Bids for connection are the biggest predictor of happiness”. Be aware of your partner’s bids for connection and make it your default to Turn towards and take […]
By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor I just listened to the attached podcast again where my friend and colleague and I are chatting about relationships and I couldn’t believe how jammed packed it is with tips and tools that can be used by all couples, no matter their age or stage of relationships. I think my favourite […]