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Relationship Building Habits

December 7, 2023
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Thanks to our Counsellor, Naomi Rubinstein, for the following blog.

As a couples therapist I too keep learning and trying to improve on my own relationships and sometimes it helps to have something or someone bring to the surface what you already know.

Having just read The Seven-Day Love Prescription by the Gottmans, I was inspired by the line: “Love is a practice, more than a feeling, it’s an action.”

Relationships need attention!

According to John Gottman:

“The difference between Masters of relationships and disasters of relationships is that the Masters make an effort even when things are good”.

So,

The relationship building habit for each day for 7 consecutive days are as follows:

DAY 1: Make contact

DAY 2: Ask a big question

DAY 3: Say thank you

DAY 4: Give a real compliment

DAY 5: Ask for what you need

DAY 6: Reach out and touch

DAY 7: Declare a date night

Stay tuned for a short exploration of each habit.

It’s never too late to start.

Relationship Building Habits Part 8:

Relationship Building Habits Part 8:

By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor Day 7: Declare date night. Many of my couples tell me they experience loneliness in their marriage. Some say they live parallel lives with their partners. John and Julie Gottman’s research shows that the average amount . . . . .
Relationship Building Habits Part 7:

Relationship Building Habits Part 7:

By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor DAY 6: Reach out and Touch. These 10 habits are practiced by couples in happy, thriving relationships, where both partners are satisfied sexually:
Relationship Building Habits Part 6:

Relationship Building Habits Part 6:

By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor DAY 5: Ask for what you need. It’s not easy asking for what we need and couples often wish our partners could read our minds, or at least intuit our desires without exposing ourselves by actually . . . . .
Relationship Building Habits Part 5:

Relationship Building Habits Part 5:

By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor Day 4: Give a real compliment. A relationship is made up of one unit, consisting of two people, two minds, different desires and opinions. No wonder there will be conflict – that is to be expected! . . . . .
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By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor Day 7: Declare date night. Many of my couples tell me they experience loneliness in their marriage. Some say they live parallel lives with their partners. John and Julie Gottman’s research shows that the average amount . . . . .
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By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor DAY 6: Reach out and Touch. These 10 habits are practiced by couples in happy, thriving relationships, where both partners are satisfied sexually:
Relationship Building Habits Part 6:

Relationship Building Habits Part 6:

By Naomi Rubinstein, Counsellor DAY 5: Ask for what you need. It’s not easy asking for what we need and couples often wish our partners could read our minds, or at least intuit our desires without exposing ourselves by actually . . . . .